The Psychology of Winning
Denis Waitley
The 10 Qualities of a Total Winner
Quality 1: Positive Self-Expectancy
"Life is a self fulfilling prophecy. True winners go into every event expecting to win."
Positive self expectancy is knowing that you will always be positive when everything goes the wrong way. Self confidence is not a motivational perspective by itself. It is a judgment about capabilities for accomplishment of some goal, and, therefore, must be considered within a broader conceptualization of motivation that provides the goal context.
Quality 2: Positive Self-Motivation
"True winners dig deep and find motivation inside themselves to get through that tough task or to learn a new skill."
This quality means that if you motivate yourself you will be successful. It's the ability to do what needs to be done, without influence from other people or situations. People with self motivation can find a reason and strength to complete a task, even when challenging, without giving up or needing another to encourage them.
Quality 3: Positive Self-Image
True winners are confident and view themselves as competent, valuable human beings.
This quality is believing that you are what you think you are. For example if you call yourself a fat dumb person is not very positive and you will soon start to become it. But if you believe that you will lose weight and will become a better person. Tell yourself that you are the best that you are smart something positive instead of putting yourself down.
Quality 4: Positive Self-Direction
You gotta have direction if you are going to go anywhere. True winners know where they are going. Their sense of direction comes from the self and not from outside influences like parents or friends.
Positive self direction is knowing that any choice you make is always going to get you ahead in your pursuit of happiness. If you make the choice and know that you can gain more than one thing out of that you will be in a positive direction. making the right the right choices can be an investment to your future. This also shows that you know where you are going in life. You already planned out your life and know that nothing can stop you from achieving those goals.
Quality 5: Positive Self-Control
Total winners can sacrifice immediate pleasure for a gain in the future. Delayed gratification is of immense value in reaching your goals.
Having self control is important because if want something and you need something you should always go for the need. Like if your old phone still works fine and you want the new phone that just came out you should stay with what you have. You might later need that money but if you spend it then you are gonna end up causing yourself problems. Self control isn't only about money you can also control yourself from eating unhealthy foods.
Quality 6: Positive Self-Discipline
You have to discipline yourself or else someone else will discipline you into doing what they want you to do. Total winners have the power to discipline and take control of their lives.
To have have discipline means that you know how to control your urges. If you don't have your life together and don't know what you're going to do then your not disciplined. I you want to be successful and want to get an early start to your day then put an alarm. If you do this you will eventually discipline yourself into waking up early. This will soon become a habit and you can be more productive with your time and energy. Having self discipline is also a good quality to have when trying to keep a job because your boss might see that you're really dedicated in your work and into the company.
Quality 7: Positive Self-Esteem
Your mood and outlook on life affect the way you see the world and how you interact in it. Total winners are positive, powerful people who make people feel good and provide a good vibe to those around him/her.
I think this quality is important because you should have a good view on yourself in order to do great work. Having positive self esteem is what you think of yourself, and if you think lowly of yourself then how do you expect yourself to succeed? You must ensure that your opinion of yourself is high to keep yourself going. A positive self-image is incredibly important as it is a self-fulfilling prophecy where if you think you will fail, you will fail. And if you believe you can achieve success, then you will reach success.
Quality 8: Positive Self-Dimension
Total winners like in the present. They know that now is all there is. They don’t get caught up in the past or worry about the future. They simply handle the business that they can handle which is the stuff going on today, now.
Quality 9: Positive Self-Awareness
Total winners are aware of their power. They understand that they can be anything with enough effort and determination.
Quality 10: Positive Action
Total winners take positive action in their business and with their friends and family. They are uplifting and motivating individuals who inspire the best from themselves and other
